February Daily Vibes | Loving Relationships Day 22

Day 22 Law of Attraction Centering Thought

I am lovable just the way I am.

You were created to be completely loved and completely lovable for your whole life.  ~  Deepak Chopra

Love gives of itself, it is not bought.  ~  Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


Unconditional Love

Relationships, particularly close ones, give you the opportunity to rise above the condition by taking control of your vibration apart from the condition – by not letting what is, the situation, dictates the vibration that you offer.  This means focusing, controlling your thoughts, and caring about how you feel. If you can get in a place where you do not need the other to be a certain way in order for you to feel good, wonderful new insights and awareness will come from that.

Thriving Even Though

The two of you can continue to thrive together even though you have different opinions about things. If you have people around you that feel good to be with and agree with you, it seems like it would be nice if everyone were that way.  Yes, it would feel good, but if you need them to be that way in order to clearly align then you are out of control. You are not free because you need to control how you behave to control their response to you. When you take it upon yourself to control their response to you, you are responding fully out of a motivation to please rather than finding inspiration from the source within you. Your Inner Being knows what your path of most allowance is in order to accomplish the desired relationship.

You often think that it is the other person’s resistance that you need to overcome, but that is never the case.  Your Inner Being is never considering what the other one is thinking, only what you are thinking about what the other one is thinking.  The resistance that is on your path isn’t anything about what the other one is doing. It is about your perspective about what the other one is doing, and you have more control over your perception than most are exercising.

Up-lifting

As an up-lifter, if you observe something a person is doing that you know they do not want and that you do not want either, you have to find some way of looking at that in a different way.  You have to look with the eyes of Source.  That means you have to generalize the situation to the point that you can still feel good about it or you have to have to stay off the situation altogether.

You know you are an extension of Source Energy; everything that you live with others is causing you to put what you prefer into your Virtual Reality. In simple terms, all you have to do is line up with that.  That means that when you see someone that you care about experiencing something that they do not want, you launch a rocket of desire for them.  But you do not have any control over their relationship with their Virtual Reality.  That is what is so confounding to those of you who want to uplift others.  When they do not do what you know they could do in order to feel better, it makes you want to come on stronger with them.  But you must feel about anyone apart from what his or her current experience is. That is what unconditional love and unconditional clarity are all about.

You don’t need you to do for him or him for you.  Of importance is your alignment for you, which is a value to others.  If you think, I’ll get into alignment because he needs it, then your clear alignment is gone in the wanting to help.

Right time, right place

When you are in clear alignment at the right time the right words will flow – like – I realize I was more of a hindrance than a help.  My desire for you to do something that you do not feel like doing right now was making you feel more resistance and more unlikely to help yourself.  I am backing off my attention to you, not because I stopped caring, but because I want to be of the greatest value.  It is not that you need to separate from this person that you care about; it is for you to find clear alignment and then turn your attention to someone that you love.

This is the core of what goes wrong with every relationship.  I feel better when you gaze upon me and love me because when you are tuned in, turned on and tapped in and turn your attention to me, I am the recipient of that stream of pure Source Energy.  But while you like and appreciate the attention of the other, you must not become dependent upon it.  It is not their job to stay in clear alignment for you.  Yet you are going ahead and getting into relationships when neither one of you are in clear alignment.  Marriage vows should be, Let’s hang around together when we both feel good.  Otherwise, let’s stay apart.

Spiritual Beings

When it becomes easy for you to focus on who the other really is rather than who they conditionally are; when you can focus on who you really are rather than who you are conditionally being; you let go of what is so that you can experience the life-giving experience of moving forward.

You think you are a physical being.  You are not, you are a vibrational being.

You think you are a being observing conditions, you are not.  You are the creator of energy and ideas. You are a flower of energy.

Yes, what you want will come to manifestation, which is the delight of physical and nonphysical, but to do that you must not care so much about the physical manifestation.  That keeps you from going with the flow.  Be less conditional for a little while and be more unconditional which means be more emotional.  Then you become the person in your own Vibrational Reality to connect with the clarity and relationships that you have put there.  You have to be the vibrational version of yourself before you can turn those thoughts to things that you want.

Week Four Process:

Practice seeing the other through the eyes of your Inner Being by writing down possible perspectives you could have when the other is saying or doing something you do not want.

For example:  If your partner would benefit from physical exercise but is a couch potato, you are observing something that is unsettling to you.  You would like him to do something that he is not doing and if he would do something different, you would feel better.  This is you not living unconditionally.  It is you asking him to do something so that you can feel better. He, almost deliberately, refuses to do that as if inwardly he understands that it is his job not to please you.

Since he is doing something that you wish he would do differently, you must do something to soothe yourself.  You could look away.  You could get involved in other things.  But he is always there, so it is hard to do that.  You have to find a way to look at this in a way that you can feel better.

You might say, the cells of his body know what they are doing; he is an extension of Source Energy whether he knows that he is or not; Source is flowing toward him whether he believes that or not; the cells of his body are responsive to Source Energy whether he is consciously aware of it or not.  I know in large part that he is getting what he needs whether he knows it or not. This is a way to sooth you.  I know that he has an Inner Being.  I know that when he sleeps his resistance stops.  I know that his physical body is resourceful.  I know that he is discovering his own path of most allowing. I know that while he is someone that I care very much about, I cannot offer a vibration for him.  I know that when I get in clear alignment that my influence is stronger.  But I do not get into clear alignment for my power of influence; I get into clear alignment for the well-being that it provides for me.

Once you play that scene more and more you are going to feel less tension about what he is doing.  You are going to deliberately add an atmosphere of ease.  You could be healthy or knowledgeable and tuned in often, but when you are looking at something that is the most important to you right now and you are out of vibrational integrity about it then you can tell by the way you feel that you are of no value to the situation.  Where if you can soothe yourself and you have the ability to do it now you are beaming in like a satellite dish the energy of well-being for him.

He does not need you to stream energy toward him, but there will be something soothing for him to not see you all upset as you have been.  When your nagging stops, that will help him.  It will give him some reassurance.  There might even be enough momentum for you that you might say that you are not worried about him anymore.  You have come to realize how resilient he is, he is doing what he needs to do.